Ok here it is, this is the begininig I have other options being added to the formmailer, but wanted to get this much out there now.
First place the recaptcha library in a BIN folder on the root of your website
Second place the FormMailer.ascx and FormMailer.ascx.vb in a folder of your choice.
Then add the following doe to the top of your aspx form:
<%@ Register src="FormMailer.ascx" tagname="FormMailer" tagprefix="uc1" %>
Make sure the src points to the correct folder
The add the following to the bottom of your form:
<input type="hidden" id="redirect" name="redirect" value="redirect-page" />
<input type="hidden" id="recipient" name="recipient" value="email-to-send-to" />
<input type="hidden" id="subject" name="subject" value="Email-subject" />
<input type="hidden" id="sort" name="sort" value="alphabetic" />
<uc1:FormMailer ID="FormMailer1" runat="server" />
More settings can be made in the FormMailer.ascx.vb file.
Recaptcha Library
FormMailer.ascx
FormMailer.ascx.vb